They say that in a big city it is almost impossible to meet great love and build relationships. They say that in a big city it is easier to live alone. They say that a big city is a city of successful, but lonely people. Lots of opinions and stereotypes surround this idea, but are they all true?
I don’t believe in the notions mentioned above, even in the biggest of cities, there still should be someplace for love and pure human feelings. However, I have to agree with one thing, an urban environment is hardly the most romantic environment there is. Unfortunately, the reality is that now it is much easier for residents of large cities to publicly expose their bodies than to open up their souls to their loved ones. This is the future that is facing us. We are not afraid to show our underwear, but we are afraid of our own weaknesses, vulnerabilities. Therefore, people tend to establish short-term relationships that are not based on any form of spiritual connection or long-term planning. Such relationships are built only for sex and are purely selfish in nature. This is a common thing and people now tend to believe that true love doesn’t really exist. The need for long-term relationships gets lower and lower every single day, who do people still fall in love, get married, and give birth to children? You may not want to register your marital alliance with your lover, but the essence remains the same, love exists and it will manifest itself in our lives no matter what.
What is a relationship in a big city and how does it differ from a relationship in a small city or a village?
Relationships in an urban environment – are, above all, about efficiency. The pace of life and the high rate of development of a relationship is completely normal here. It should be noted that relationships are not always fast, the urban environment makes us go to the extremes, and people either tend to have a very fast or very slow pace of development of relationships. In general, in a big city, there are a lot of people who do not believe that relationships, as well as marriage, family, children, are about them. They are ready to devote their lives to self-realization, their career, hobbies, and they absolutely do not need to create a family and spend all of their time on such useless crap. Establishing a family is not included in their plans.
Therefore, having met someone who you like you can feel free to ask this person about their plans for life. If there is not a word about establishing a family, then, most likely, they are simply not ready yet. It is highly likely that this new friend of yours, in principle, does not want to burden themselves with anything or anyone. This does not mean that such people will never be able to fall in love. They are against commitments, affections, debt, and everything that can somehow limit their freedom. If you feel like you simply must establish a relationship with a person that doesn’t seem to be ready yet for a serious relationship – it will require some amount of effort on your part to make them rethink their life. Your personality and passion should convince them that love is worth fighting for, even if it will involve sacrifices down the line.
In a big city, there are many tourists and those who find it morally and financially difficult to establish a serious relationship, therefore many are looking for something else, to either satisfy their short-term desires and needs or find someone to provide them with some help. It is worth taking this into account and, start looking for a partner among the people that you have already known for some time, maybe your classmates, your coworkers, in general, people who you would refer to as your peers. In this case, you will have fewer temptations and dilemmas when choosing your potential partner for a relationship. And with someone who is your peer, you most likely will have a relationship based on love and nothing more. Also, don’t forget that there are probably lots of different online services of dating for single men and women to be found, so, if you are a busy person, this is a great way to date other people.
Also, there are lots of people in big cities who would want to establish a relationship with someone just for the sake of proving themselves that they can do it, they will do it as a way of proving themselves that they are pretty, smart, and desired. In general, you need to be extremely careful and constantly listen to your heart, intuition, and loved ones. When common sense will not be there to rely upon – they will not let you down.